Online Class on Contraception (24) ~Is Natural Family Planning Truly Not Reliable?


Online Class on Contraception (24)  ~Is Natural Family Planning Truly Not Reliable?

There are many questions coming to me on the use of Contraceptives. I may not be able to answer all, but there is one I cannot ignore. It is about the criticism I have received concerning natural family planning (NFP) and how it is not reliable.

Most of these criticisms are coming from men. And I agree with them that the success rate of NFP is low. I will give you three or maybe four reasons why it is so and why most women will never consider Natural family planning as their best form of contraception.  

The first reason is their Men

The second is due to their Men

The third is because of their Men

The fourth. . . .hmmmm maybe ignorance.

Let us be brutally honest with ourselves. Let us face the fact as it is.

There is no married woman or man in the Catholic Church that does not know that the church is against artificial means of contraception. But, I dare to tell you that if we are to have a headcount on those using artificial contraception, Catholic women will be at the top.

Yes, they don't listen to the church, not because they don't want to, but because they have found themselves at the receiving end of everything. So for most of them, it is a matter of survival.

I will explain, but first answer these questions sincerely from your heart. . .

When you see your choir member who is not married but pregnant, who do you blame and tag "spoilt"? The "pregnatee" or the "pregnater"?

In our culture, when married couples cannot conceive, who is usually the first point to be blamed? The wifyyy or the hubbyyy?

In your church, when you call those looking for the fruit of the womb to come out for prayers, who are those you mostly expect that will come out? Women or men?

This is where the major problem is: the burden of getting pregnant or avoiding pregnancy is resting on the shoulders of the girl or the woman ALONE. There is something wrong with that.

This is why, when men don't want her to be pregnant, they say to her, "you know what to do." When they want her to be pregnant and the pregnancy is not showing forth, they ask her, "what did you do to your womb?" When she becomes pregnant and they don't want the pregnancy, they tell her, "take care of it and stop behaving like a child". . .which is another way of saying, "you are on your own."

Then she is taught to be submissive to her man. The teaching is not the problem but individual interpretation of what "submission" means is where the problem lies.

There are men whose understanding of submission is that the woman is not supposed to say NO whenever they want sex. Have you not heard that there are men who still push for sex even if the woman is menstruating? How do you even start telling those men about fertile days or ovulation mucus?

When their women become pregnant, how many men go with them for antenatal or postnatal care? Have you not seen women with their newly born babies abandoned in postnatal clinics by the men who impregnated them? What about the pain of raising new baby every two years because the man don't care? What about the fear of dying during child delivery?

So, when she survives all these and knowing that the man don't care, you expect that she won't take contraceptive pills or have an implant despite the side effects? 

And talking about contraception, how many men go for vasectomy or condom? No, they push it to the woman. That is another way of them saying: "the woman should bear the pain and side effects alone."

This is why it surprises me when feminists advocate for contraceptives.

Men should be taught to sit down and do the right thing. If the woman is pregnant, the man is also pregnant. If the man wants her to take contraceptive pills, he should be ready to take too. If she takes this month, the man should get his equivalent pills and take for next month. Otherwise, they should both sit down and study their bodies and be responsible for their 'knacks'. That is what the church calls Responsible Parenthood.




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